Grief, explained honestly
Plain writing about loss, grounded in the same research Still Here is built on.
Writing a letter to someone who died: a practice that helps
Writing to the person you lost is one of the most useful and best-supported grief practices. Here is why it works, how to start, and what to avoid.
Anticipatory grief: when you're mourning someone still alive
Grieving before a death is real, exhausting, and widely misunderstood. Here is what anticipatory grief is, what the research says it does and does not do, and how to carry it.
The first anniversary of a death: getting through milestone days
Anniversaries, birthdays, and holidays reliably bring grief back at full volume. Here is why anniversary reactions happen and how to plan for the day instead of being ambushed.
What is prolonged grief disorder? Signs, and the treatment that works
Around one in ten bereaved adults develops prolonged grief disorder. Here are the criteria clinicians actually use, how it differs from ordinary grief, and why the outlook is good.
Grief and anger: why you're furious, and why that's normal
Anger after a loss is common, misunderstood, and not a stage you must pass through. Here is where it comes from, who it lands on, and what to do with it.
Losing a parent as an adult
Adult grief for a parent is often minimized as expected and survivable. Here is why it hits harder than people admit, and what actually helps.
Sensing the presence of someone who died: common, and usually normal
Feeling them in the room, hearing their voice, catching their smell: post-bereavement sensory experiences are reported by around half of widowed people. Here is what research says.
Losing a spouse: what the first year actually holds
An honest map of the first year after losing a partner: the early fog, the month-six dip, the practical avalanche, and what the research says about coming through it.
Can grief make you physically sick?
Chest tightness, exhaustion, a weakened immune system, even broken heart syndrome: what grief does in the body, what is normal, and which symptoms need a doctor now.
Grief brain: why you can't concentrate after a loss
Forgetting words, rereading the same paragraph, missing appointments: the fog after bereavement is real, common, and usually temporary. Here is what is happening and what helps.
What to say to someone who is grieving (and what to avoid)
The words that actually land with a grieving person, the common phrases that quietly hurt, and what to do when you do not know what to say.
Grief and sleep: what actually helps at 3am
Sleep problems after a loss are nearly universal: trouble falling asleep, 3am waking, dreams. Here is why grief disrupts sleep and what genuinely helps, tonight.
Why taking breaks from grief is healthy: the Dual Process Model
Feeling okay for an afternoon is not denial. The Dual Process Model, one of the best-supported frameworks in bereavement research, says oscillation is how grieving works.
Should you use AI to “talk” to someone who died? Why we built the opposite
Griefbots promise one more conversation with the person you lost. Grief research suggests that promise can quietly work against you. Here is the evidence, and the boundary we built because of it.
How long does grief last? An honest answer
There is no deadline for grief, but research does describe common patterns, what changes over the first year, and the signs that grief has become something worth treating.
Are the five stages of grief real? What the research actually says
The five stages of grief are not a scientific roadmap. Here is where the model came from, what studies found when they tested it, and what grief actually tends to look like.